It’s so interesting that, while the overall percentage of women having babies are married, the majority of women under thirty have babies and are not married. Read the article here.
“One group still largely resists the trend: college graduates, who overwhelmingly marry before having children. That is turning family structure into a new class divide, with the economic and social rewards of marriage increasingly reserved for people with the most education. “Marriage has become a luxury good,” said Frank Furstenberg, a sociologist at the University of Pennsylvania.”
I wonder who the stakeholders are in this particular article. Here’s another excerpt:
“The shift is affecting children’s lives. Researchers have consistently found that children born outside marriage face elevated risks of falling into poverty, failing in school or suffering emotional and behavioral problems.”
But it isn’t “outside of marriage” where there is a problem it is in single-parent households. The problems are poverty, time, and attention given to children, not whether or not a kid’s parents are married. Interesting that the article can get away without making such an important distinction!
“Almost all of the rise in nonmarital births has occurred among couples living together. While in some countries such relationships endure at rates that resemble marriages, in the United States they are more than twice as likely to dissolve than marriages. In a summary of research, Pamela Smock and Fiona Rose Greenland, both of the University of Michigan, reported that two-thirds of couples living together split up by the time their child turned 10.”
Fo one, I don’t think that first sentence is accurate, I’d like to see the research. Two, the problem, again, is poverty in that people move in together who do not have other means of familial or monetary support. It’s a systematic problem, not a problem of being “unwed.”
And in the end, the article blames men for the decline in marriages, stating that men are largely “unmarriable” due to lack of steady income, housing, etc. Women “don’t need them” anymore. I would love to discuss this with someone else…I mean, men need to step it up as a whole when it comes to parenting (statistically), but I wouldn’t blame them for the decline in number of marriages or for the rise in unwed mothers having babies. I’m not sure blame needs to be placed anywhere, because I’m not convinced it’s actually a problem. There are problems, for sure…but let’s make sure we identify what they are before we start whining about it.